I am a woman who escaped SAFELY from an abusive relationship without the abuser knowing I was leaving, or having any idea where I had gone. Before I left, I planned for my future practically, emotionally and financially. I did it and so can you.

Knowledge really is power. In the pages of this web site I will share with you how to; plan for a financially secure and emotionally stable future and how to leave the relationship safely. Instead of leaving for a life of uncertainty, you'll be leaving for a new life, full of prospects and opportunity. The best thing of all is, you will have created this new life for yourself.

There are also links to organizations that can help you with counseling, support and practical "get the Hell outta Dodge" help.

Leaving an abusive partner is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and I was terrified. It took me a long time to reach the decision to leave even though my life was a waking nightmare. A good friend of mine said " you will have a crystallizing moment, something will happen, it could be something insignificant, but at that moment you will KNOW that you are going to leave". For me it was the death of my Granny. Her last words before she died were

" 74 years and it's gone by in the blink of an eye, where did my life go?"

Don't let this happen to you. Life is a precious gift, don't let your life pass you by. Start now by taking very small steps to gain knowledge to help your self, build your self-confidence and leave safely. Take enough small steps and soon you'll be far, far away from abuse.

You are important, you are beautiful and you deserve the best. Just imagine how good it would feel to be free, to be able to go where ever you want to go, do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it. Hold that thought and don't let go for anything. This is YOUR life - take it back! Remember, you are never alone, all you have to do is reach out.

Good luck.

What is abuse? I Cycle of abuse I Why women stay I Profile of an Abuser I Power Wheel I Ready to leave? I Emergency plan I Information and counseling I Children & Abuse I Plan your escape I Change of Address I Somewhere to go I Social Security I Get a Bank Account I Save up some Money I Get Credit in your own name I Protect your new accounts I Dealing with DMV I Joint Accounts I Legal help I Divorce I Immigration I Computer privacy I Telephone privacy I Need a job? Train for free I Companies that help or hurt I I'm out-now what? I Healthy relationships I Links I Survivors Pages I Home I

Please note, this web page is a purely a personal account of my own experiences and is not linked to any organization or Government agency. I had no children to consider in my escape, only myself and the information in this web site reflects that, however, woman with children will find much of the information contained in these pages to their advantage.

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Copyright © Heather Jayne 2001

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